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The more I work with healers and lightworkers, the more uncomfortable I am getting with the word ‘service’.
Many I’ve met describe themselves as a healer in service, in service to the Universe and the those around them.
So many women I have met describe their work as their Soul Purpose, as something they are meant to be doing, that they just can’t put words to it, or that they are here to serve the world. These are the words I use to use and I hear them being echoed back to me as I work with them.
What I’m also noticing, as I journey with these women through their ancestral lineage, is that most of us have a history of service in our family line. However the way our lineage and DNA understand the word service is very different to our understanding of the word service.
Up until recently, being ‘of service’ to the world meant a very different thing to what it does today. For generations a women in service usually meant one of two things. She either was a domestic / maid or she was a prostitute. These women only worked because they had to. Not because they wanted to. Up until recently, being a women and working was considered shameful and showed just how impoverished the family situation was.
A women who served was a women who was treated like a slave.
A women who served was a women who poured her heart and soul for next to no money.
A women who served was a women who couldn’t be there to raise her children, and children were considered a form of abundance.
When we talk about ourselves as serving others or humanity we are reminding our bodies of what it means to be a servant, to give for little in return. This is the what I am seeing with women when it comes to earning an income from their purposeful work.
My father’s mother was English. She was from the poorest communities in London. She came from a long line of serving girls. At 13 she began her work going to other people’s houses to clean and be a domestic help. Her sisters did it, her mother was one and her grandmother also served. There is a long line of service in our family. A long history of giving ourselves away, doing dirty work, for next to nothing. For allowing people to treat us as if we are nothing.
I’ve also uncovered female ancestors, in my line, who turned to prostitution, for short periods of time, to earn money. It’s quite common to find prostitutes or women who have worked in the seediest of places to survive when tracing ancestral lineage.
This understanding of what ‘service’ is goes back generations and hundreds of years. When we are conceived our DNA blueprint is influenced by the previous 7 Generations.
Native Americans understood this wisdom and it helped guide them in decision making. Science is now starting to prove what ancient wisdom has always known. All the beliefs, programs and patterns from our forefathers and mothers are within us. We hold their cell memories within our DNA. Our DNA understands who we are based on this blueprint and activates these beliefs systems upon our own experience.
Before I knew this I describe myself as being of service and it didn’t feel right. My body didn’t like it yet there was no other way of describing it and I couldn’t understand why I felt this way when I heard others talk about being of service.
I’m not alone in this. Most of my clients have family stories and history stored in their DNA where being of service is being giving, often over giving, not about bringing light and healing to the world.One lady I worked with use to visit her grandparents. Living with her grandparents was a female relative of the grandmother. This woman helped raise the children, cleaned, cooked and, as my client recalls, treated fairly poorly by family, like a domestic. It wasn’t until she was in her 40’s she learnt that this women was actually her biological grandmother. That the women she thought was her grandmother couldn’t conceive children so an arrangement was made with another relative to birth children on her behalf and hand them over.
The beliefs that have come down are incredible and it explained to my client why she difficultly speaking up and why she felt challenged with authority. Despite a wealthier upbringing, she too felt this slave energy running through her.
We need to clean up what the word ‘service’ means in our DNA if we truly want to step into the world and express our gifts in a way that feel good and feel worthy of being paid, and paid well, for them. Cleaning out the belief systems we have inherited will allow us to fully embody our beliefs in a way that support us so that we can use the word ‘service’ and our body feels good, not compelled or used.
Has this article been helpful? Given you something to think about?
Helena Ryan lives in Brisbane Australia with her husband, son and border collie. When she’s not working she’s reading books, going camping or bushwalking or playing diggers with her son in the sandpit. She loves to garden and travel. She has served in the Australian Army and spent a decade as a Primary School Teacher. In 2011 she helped her husband clear his cancer, a 6x4x2” tumour around his lungs.
P.S. If this resonated with you, I work with female entrepreneurs from all around the world to identify how their ancestral lineage is impacting their business and their personal life. Find out how your Ancestral Lineage is impacting your journey.