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I never really thought too much about how parenting had changed over generations until I had my son.
Well meaning family and in-laws, usually older members, would offer advice and most of it would be based on what they did with their children when they were younger.
All of it coming from the heart and wanting to share their wisdom.
But the truth of it was not one piece of was helpful.
I would hear comments like “well I did this with my children and it caused them no harm”.
“This is what we did for our children, no reason why it won’t work today”
But it doesn’t work for today’s children.
Today’s generation are so unique, they are almost a species upon themselves.
I know, because I have one.
Parenting techniques used with me, just don’t work with my son.
Some days I just don’t know what to do with him.
And many mothers I work with share similar stories.
Because these children are coming through to change the world.
They are here to raise the vibration of the planet.
They draw attention to themselves wherever they go. There is a very special quality in them.
They are the ones drawing a line in the sand.
And they’ve chosen you to help them, as they can’t do it on their own.
The world is at the cusp of change.
There is massive change coming.
Which is why the old ways are rebelling.
Just look at the politic state around the world.
Health and over medicated society.
Where we sit, our generation, the parents, are the first wave to bring change into this world.
Our children, these beautiful change-agents, will step it up greatly, if we do the work with them and if we create the space for them.
We are the first to have an opportunity in all areas of life to do it differently.
We can build businesses, ones we just love, around our family.
We can earn our own money.
The way we “do” relationships has completely changed.
We can create family life that is aligned with us.
Everything is changing.
And we are leading it.
This new change, the ones our children are calling forward that this change begin with us.
So what do we do to help them, to help us?
Clear out the old and out dated belief systems.
We can’t fully embody the new belief system and new way of being without cleaning out the old. It’s like putting on a new band-aid over a grubby old one and hoping the wound has healed without actually checking.
It just doesn’t work that way.
Clearing out our family beliefs around money, relationships, mental health and speaking our truth is one of the fastest ways you can embody the new beliefs.
Learn what your patterns and beliefs are contained within your lineage and what a stored in your DNA and clear them out.
Let them lead the change
It can be scary thought. Let them lead. They have come in wired for this change, they know it better than we do.
So let them lead it.
That doesn’t mean giving a 3 year full reign to do what they want.
It means connecting and really listening to them.
Putting aside what you were told was possible for children at that age. Put aside what the system says they can and can’t do.
And really see them.
Advocate for them.
My son is 3 ¼ and can swim like a fish.
He’s such a good swimmer that the swim school don’t know what to do with him.
He has the swimming ability of children twice his age.
At first, they didn’t want to put him up a swim group because they worried about his maturity.
We pushed for it and finally got him moved up.
It’s quite funny seeing them all stand on the platform and here’s my son, who barely comes up to the other children’s shoulders and is always used as the exemplar in the group.
Then within 2 weeks, he was ready to move up to the next group.
This is his natural gift. We weren’t going to suppress it because of his size or age.
We held our ground and he’s thriving in these groups.
While all mother’s have a strong mothering instinct. The mother’s of these new wave of children seem to have a deeper connection that works both ways.
They are calling us to trust it.
And we will be called to make decisions about their education, health and welfare that go outside the normal parameters because these children can’t change the world if they follow what everyone else has done.
I truly believe my son called in this work. He was the one who called this in, to make the changes in our family lineage, for both my husband and myself. He needed us to upgrade these belief systems so he can go forth and do what he needs to do in this world.
Ancestral healing was never about myself or my husband. It was about our son.
And it’s not about you either, it’s about your children.
Helena Ryan lives in Brisbane Australia with her husband, son and border collie. When she’s not working she’s reading books, going camping or bushwalking or playing diggers with her son in the sandpit. She loves to garden and travel. She has served in the Australian Army and spent a decade as a Primary School Teacher. In 2011 she helped her husband clear his cancer, a 6x4x2” tumour around his lungs.
P.S. If this resonated with you, I work with female entrepreneurs from all around the world to identify how their ancestral lineage is impacting their business and their personal life. Find out how your Ancestral Lineage is impacting your journey.