I never liked the term black sheep. It made it seem like there was something wrong with me or that being different was a bad thing.
No matter where I went, I was different. In my family, at school, in work situations, with friends … I never really felt like I fitted in.
I seemed to be on a very different level to everyone else. I asked questions nobody asked and I saw things that nobody seemed to see. At times it could be, and still can be, very isolating.
It wasn’t until I was well into my 30’s that I realised that being different was not a bad or wrong thing.
It was actually a sign of a world leader.
You see, the world can’t change if everyone is doing the same thing.
The world needs people to be different and to lead change.
And rainbow sheep just seem to “do” leadership a little differently.
We lead from the inside out.
Without the need to create a big following, groupies or spectacle like other leadership styles can do.
We don’t need to be up there with swords drawn forging new worlds or leading 1000’s of people.
We just be ourselves and lead from the inside out.
And the world we are leading the change in is the internal world.
I have connected with so many women who are the same.
Our leadership style is very unique.
5 signs you are a Rainbow Sheep Leader:
1) We lead with an introverted way.
We aren’t out front taking centre stage, we watch, observe and respond.
We might have fun, be loud but we aren’t interested in centre stage in a way others are.
Our way is gentler, with ease and grace, in the ebb and flow of life.
We prefer to be sitting one-on-one facilitating change, connecting with like-minded souls and creating value.
Often only those up the front creating a following and spectacle are considered true leaders.
And these types of leaders often overshadow other forms of leadership styles, including the rainbow sheep.
Who stand out, not because they are on centre-stage, but because they are leading, on the side, facilitating growth and change in others.
2) We cause change without trying.
Ever had the feeling you annoyed someone you have just met just because you are breathing? Yep, me too. I have this gift of being able to bring stuff up in others when I’m just being me.
I can meet complete strangers and know instantly they don’t like me.
It happened recently to me. I went to a networking event and one lady there, who I had never met, took an instant dislike to me. She cut off my sentences, made me wrong whenever she could and had to be one better then me the entire time.
I just seem to bring up or mirror people’s “stuff” everywhere I go.
And so many women I work with are the same.
We are the recalibrators of the world causing those around us to shift and when it makes them uncomfortable we are often to “blame”.
3) We lead from the inside out
Our leadership style is about internal change and growth.
Which is why we feel so different to everyone else.
And why the term black sheep just doesn’t quite fit.
Now the rainbow sheep is perfect because we undergo internal change at a rapid rate.
We permeate peace, joy, consciousness and we seem to be able to manifest quite well.
We heal, grow and change in an instant and ask what is next.
It annoys people.
People can’t keep up.
If you lead like a rainbow sheep, you probably have been told to slow down, that you are too much.
Nearly every coach I have worked with has told me to slow down. My last business coach couldn’t handle it. It intimidated so much to the point that she actually began putting me down in order to make herself feel better.
As a rainbow sheep, it is really important to let those who are mentoring you to know just how fast you work.
And if you have clients who are rainbow sheep, it is important to let them know they can set the pace. I do this with all my rainbow sheep clients.
4) You think different and ask lots of questions that others seem to miss
I have spent most of my life wondering why everybody was so blind.
Surely it was as obvious to them as it was to me.
Turns out it wasn’t.
I saw things when others couldn’t and I knew things before others did.
I could call BS a mile away while others fell for it hook, line and sinker.
I’ve been like this for as long as I can remember.
I remember when I was in Year 10 and one of my friends rushed to tell us this story that one of the staff members at school flipped the bird and had words with one of the students. She heard it from the staff member’s daughter who happened to be in our year level.
Everyone bought the story … except me.
I smelt BS a mile away and questioned it. Everyone was so caught up in the gossip no-one questioned if it was true.
Turns out it wasn’t true.
For the most part, people don’t like this aspect of the rainbow sheep leadership style.
Questioning others, particularly authority, doesn’t go down well.
What people don’t get is that you aren’t questioning their authority or attacking them, you are wanting to ask questions, to find out more.
Please don’t stop questioning.
I’ve had to learn how to ask questions in a way that is true to myself and gentle to those around me.
5) You make decisions that cause the family to up level and change
This one doesn’t often happen with ease and grace.
It can be more like a wet fish slapped across the face.
We lead the family into change and they can often be resistant.
We can do this unconsciously by responding differently then the rest of the family and we can do it consciously.
Either way, it promotes change.
I’ve been the inside out leader in my family for as long as I can remember.
I am leading my family and my extended family through change. Sometimes it is received with arms wide open and sometimes resistance.
This is who I am.
I am a leader in this world.
Just not in a way you would imagine.
And I know so many of you are too.
If you feel you lead like a rainbow sheep, share your thoughts on the leadership style. I’d love to connect with you.
Has this article been helpful? Given you something to think about? Share how many out of 5 are true for you.
Helena Ryan lives in Brisbane Australia with her husband, son and border collie. When she’s not working she’s reading books, going camping or bushwalking or playing diggers with her son in the sandpit. She loves to garden and travel. She has served in the Australian Army and spent a decade as a Primary School Teacher. In 2011 she helped her husband clear his cancer, a 6x4x2” tumour around his lungs.
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