Tracing our family history is something that many people are drawn to.
My German grandfather traced back every paternal marriage to around the 14th Century about 15 years ago. We noticed a trend occurring. Every first child, except me, going back hundreds of years, was conceived out of wedlock.
My sister signed up to ancestry.com and discovered a second cousin who sent us photos of our ancestors. The one above has four generations of men on my paternal side from my grandfather through to my great-great-great-grandfather.
My husband’ s family has done extensive family history. They are a large family with his father being one of 12 children. A family tree on the Ryan side requires a lot of paper.
The world really has become small when it comes to accessing information and it is so exciting that we can obtain information around the world about our history and uncover where we are from now.
Understanding your past and the people who have gone before you help you understand who your really are.
The process of delving into family history isn’t just about uncovering the past, it’s about healing the future.
There is comfort in understanding where you are from and who you have come from.
It helps you see yourself, in the centre of these people, and know who you are.
It helps form a sense of self at a stronger, deeper and more grounded level.
This is why so many people are researching their family history even if they aren’t consciously aware of the pull towards it.
But what happens when you receive information with your ancestors names, places and dates of birth, marriage and death details, where they lived and other documents that identify movements of families?
It tends not to answer questions but opens up more questions.
Let’s be honest, finding out where they are from, important dates and other information is amazing but only superficial, right?
It doesn’t open the door to finding out who they really were.
What challenges did they face?
What beliefs did they have around money, relationships and life?
What experiences shaped them.
This is the piece that is missing that is just not contained in marriage certificates, photographs or in any other document.
I’ve had many clients who have been down the ancestry.com road and gathered a stack of information about their family lineage only to find themselves asking more.
I can tell you where this information is contained.
This information is inside you.
Upon conception we inherit a genetic DNA blueprint from our previous 7 generations.
That totals 126 people through to your great-great-great-great-grandparents.
Science is slowly catching up to the fact. In recent years studies on rodents and other animals are proving this.
And yes, we are not rodents. Science has to start somewhere as it catches up to what ancient wisdom and the energetics know.
Those 4 men above in my paternal line, they all influenced my DNA, my belief systems.
They are one of 126 people.
I want to know who they are, not just what they did or where they lived.
And all of this information is inside me.
Just as your family history is inside you.
Contained in your cells, in your DNA.
Their trials, tribulations, traumas, gifts and wisdom are passed down to us.
Waiting to be activated and uncovered.
Sometimes their influence is helpful and supportive to our live and sometimes it is not.
Our body holds onto cell memories, which are passed down through the cells and DNA and through conception.
Traumatic experiences and strong beliefs remain in those cells as cell memories until they are cleared out.
Given that we are the first, sometimes the second generation, to have access to healing tools, resources and opportunities, there is a lot of pain, trauma and beliefs that are stored in there that are no longer helpful or supportive.
Beliefs around money, relationships, children, work, self-worth, spiritual gifts and voice, just to name a few.
Experiences of depression and great wars.
Famines and high rates of infant mortality.
Lack of finances and women having no say.
These beliefs haven’t been cleared out of our systems and it is why there is so much desire to learn about our family history.
Something within us is calling for this to change.
This is why websites that offer family history research feel incomplete, like something is missing and it is something they simply can’t offer you either.
If you have researched or about to research your family tree, go beyond just their names and important dates.
Learn who they are at a deeper level.
Uncover their beliefs, values and world view.
Uncover their gifts and wisdom so you can embody it for yourself.
Here are 3 suggestions to help you uncover more within your family
1. Hold the photos or information
I mean really look at them. Not just with your eyes, but with your heart. As you hold it, feel what sensations arise in the body when you hold onto these documents.
What emotions, words or feelings do you get when you look at them? And write it down.
The energy thread gets transmuted through time, so trust what you are feeling.
2. Ask questions
As your parents or grandparents or other living relatives questions such as “what are the 3 words you would use to describe your grandmother?”
For my English grandmother, I get the words loyal, hardworking and determined.
Ask yourself how do these words related to you?
3. Look beyond the experiences
So you might know that you grandparents hopped on a boat and moved to the other side of the world. My German grandparents and my mother did this in the 1950’s without knowing a word of English nor having anyone they knew around them. The left the a winter Germany and ended up in the Nullarbor Plains, a desert in the middle of Australia.
Imagine the kinds of beliefs they formed based on this experience. Write down what beliefs they may have had in these experiences.
Has this article been helpful? Given you something to think about? Let me know by leaving me a comment.
Helena Ryan lives in Brisbane Australia with her husband, son and border collie. When she’s not working she’s reading books, going camping or bushwalking or playing diggers with her son in the sandpit. She loves to garden and travel. She has served in the Australian Army and spent a decade as a Primary School Teacher. In 2011 she helped her husband clear his cancer, a 6x4x2” tumour around his lungs.
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